Last week we hit the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year. Then it hit me… it’s almost half way through 2019. The year is almost half over. I don’t know if you can relate, but realizing that half 2019 is behind us leaves me a little stunned:
Half over??? I feel like I’m just getting started!
When I eat pizza, the first few bites taste AWESOME. I look at all of the delicious pizza and something in my brain tells me that this moment can last forever. It’s awesome. So I keep eating and when I come up for air, somehow I have finished three pieces and there are precious few pieces left. It’s an existential pizza moment: No matter how much I wish, the pizza won’t last forever. And in a cruel twist of fate you realize that no matter how much you eat, you never quite find that ‘first bite’ feeling.
Wow. That’s random. I didn’t plan to write about pizza. It’s how my brain works: food is good and everything can be reduced to a food metaphor. I guess that I’m a pizza’s half over person.
pizza year is half over
Here are a few things I am reminded of:
a. I have set fewer goals this year. Too many goals just makes things confusing. Better to set a few and focus.
b. I am clearer about my values: being more present to my family, my marriage and my health, and bulking up a few more of my counselling and teaching skills.
c. Being outside makes me feel more alive. My mind slows down a little, so I enjoy the moments a little more.
d. Breathing is good. It means I am still alive. It’s good for my body… and even better for my heart. I am trying to breathe more this year. When we breathe, our mind automatically slows down.
e. You gotta have stuff you look forward to: Like Thanos getting his A** kicked (Avengers: Endgame), pizza, a sci-fi book before bed, summer holidays, pizza, camping, weekends, pizza, growing your face-fro (my beard), going for a walk, pizza. Notice a theme? You gotta have things you look forward to even it it doesn’t last (Avengers: Endgame was 3 hours, but felt way too short…)
f. Sleeping makes you more awake. Weird, huh! Most of the past 3 or 4 years I have experienced various levels of insomnia. Some of it was self-induced. I had so much to write, so much to do that I didn’t want to sleep. I managed to get by on 4 hours of sleep but I felt like a walking zombie. Sure, I wrote a lot… but part of my brain was asleep most of the time.
g. You can survive without coffee. After not sleeping much at all in December, I stopped drinking coffee in January. I drink a dee-kaff once in a while, but most days am koffee-free. It’s made a difference for me.
h. Understand whether your body is tired or just lazy. When you are tired, rest. But when you are lazy, kick your a**. I have different levels of laziness: About 20% of my laziness is what I call my “recovery lazy”: the calm after the storm. 10% of my laziness is my “preparation lazy”: taking time to rest before projects. Unfortunately, this kind of lazy can quickly morph into “Costco lazy.” Being Costco lazy makes up about 70% of my laziness. It’s the kind of lazy that catches you off guard. You only plan to spend 20 minutes being lazy but before you know it, you have lost 3 hours of your day and somehow spent $250. (I should have an alarm on my phone that goes off whenever I go to Costco without a list…)
i. Enjoy this moment, right now. You and I have only this moment. Why waste another second reading this post? Get outside. Laugh. Play with your cat… or your plants… or something.
So… this post was a little random. It’s been a while since I last wrote. I may be a little rusty… or just hungry? Going forward, I plan to write more often here. I hope to see you again, soon!
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