Many of us have invested years of our lives fighting ourselves. At the time, we don’t think we are fighting ourselves. In fact, we think that we are trying to live more of the life we want, not less of it. Sometimes we live like this for quite a while, in a type of suspended … More Fighting Life will Make You Sick
“Even when we cannot describe what we want right now, we still value something… Everyone values something, and what is valued can be observed in what people do with their feet-where do they get up and go to?” Patricia A. Bach PhD & Daniel J. Moran PhD* I am in recovery from investing too much time … More What to do When You Are Having a Rear-View-Mirror Day
Taking a moment to stop will not stop our mind… but that’s not the point ___ This morning I participated in an early morning Zoom meeting. While we were on the call, someone on told us about the shooting in New Zealand . I am not one to post reactionary posts about the latest world … More Tragedy and Recovery
Do you have something, or someone, in your life who makes your head explode? ______ As a therapist, I am supposed to like everyone, right? No, I don’t. I’m human too. As a therapist, I am supposed to like everyone, right? No, I don’t. I’m human too. Most days I feel that I am a … More Making Peace with Our Tormentors
“There is a switch inside many people set at ‘I can’t.’ When it flips over to ‘I can’ for one thing, it doesn’t stop there.” James Fell, from his 2019 book “The Holy Sh!t Moment: How lasting change can happen in an instant.” (Click photo for more information) Have you experienced a life-changing moment in … More Recovery and the “I Can’t” Switch
I did a rough calculation of how I spend my time and I found out a few things. I sleep about 6-7 hours a day. I am at work for about 40 hours a week… and sometimes I spend another 6 hours thinking about work. For 45 minutes a day I am actually eating but … More Hermoine Granger: Book Loving Rule-Keeper and Badass Hero-Girl!
When they come near, you freeze up. You are drained, immobilized. Your very life, your soul is consumed. Every good feeling, every happy memory will be sucked out of you. But that is not their worst. Dementors will find your worst memories and turn these into torture, using them against you. “For Dementors, your pain becomes their … More Harry Potter: Defeating Your Dementor