Last week, I read a humorous article about how someone hired a “Human Uber” to go to work for him. And then he wrote about it.
Human Uber means that you hire someone else to step in for you and they wear a helmet with an iPad screen on the front so that your face is displayed. The screen has a camera on it, so that you can be comfortable at home, observe what your double is doing, and talk through the iPad to other people.
It’s an interesting concept, but I’m not sure what your boss, or your wife would think about it.
Can you hire a Human Uber to take on your recovery for you?
The article made me think about recovery and whether you could hire a Human Uber to do the parts of your recovery that you really hate?
Maybe you could get away with hiring a Human Uber to do your household chores for you, go grocery shopping for you, or walk to get the mail. But even those mundane and boring things are still a part of what it means to recover the life that you want to live.
Recovery, relationships and good mental health begin with one thing: your presence. As tempting as it is, you can’t delegate the tough parts of life to someone else.
In a sense, addiction is a form of delegation. We drink, we use drugs, we shop and shop and shop, we eat and eat, we surf or look at porn and put off the important stuff for another day. But when we put off important parts of life, several things will happen:
1.Someone who cares about us will do it for us and begin to resent us. Our relationship will worsen and eventually it will break apart. Or…
2.At first, nothing will happen. But over time our health, our finances, our relationships will slide. We will be pulled down and down by our own unhealthy behaviors, by our compulsions. Or…
3.Someone will replace us. We just are not there for our partner, our kids, our friends so they will move on. They may miss our presence, but they will need to leave us.
Your family, your life, your recovery needs you. As difficult as it may feel some days, your presence is what you need.
I have days where all that I can manage is to show up in my emotions. These days don’t happen often. I used to try to avoid feeling anything on those days. Because how do you be present when you feel like your insides have spilled out and are trailing behind you?
Presence is one of the most difficult things that you can do. But it can change you.
You are innately designed to use your personal power. When you don’t, you experience helplessness, paralysis and depression – which is your clue that something is not working as it could. Susan Jeffers
Think about your life. Is there an area where it’s tough to be present to? No, you can’t Human Uber that part of your life away. But you can do the courageous thing. You can breathe and keep your eyes open.
No one expects that the hard stuff will ever become easy. It won’t. But something might happen as we decide to slowly open up. As we allow ourselves to see or feel or experience in spite of our anxiety or other difficult emotions or a history of failure and lack of finishing what we have started…
When you show up to your life, you reclaim a little more of your presence. You regain a little more of your power and a little more of yourself.
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I invite you to check out another article I have written, “Trying to Get Your Life Together Will Just Make You More Stuck.”
Keep it Real
Photo by Peter Marquez