This is the second in a series of articles on Positive Psychology. I have written a longer, more referenced article on the subject which you can find here. To get the content hot off the press, sign up at the email link on the right column of this page or at my Facebook page. You can also search … More Positive Psychology: Listening for the Rest of the Story
This is a great piece about “Following your Passion” by Mike Rowe. I agree with his advice. Some jobs suck at first but you find a way to like them. Sometimes relationships are like that too. Sometimes parenting is like that… and exercise… and living with some of the stupid decisions I have made. Come to think … More Follow your passion is crappy career advice
If you could go back and talk to your younger self, what would you say? In case you are wondering, I don’t regularly talk to myself out loud. I don’t say affirmations in front of the mirror. I am not on medications, but I think that medications can be helpful. Just like glasses, hearing aids … More Letter to your younger self
I don’t like to plan. I think that is why I prefer to do abstract art. When I draw, I just put my pen to paper and see where the drawing takes me: sometimes a sketch, other times a design and sometimes a mess. I think that art, life and leadership are similar. They each … More The Abstract Leader
I was recently asked to paint a large painting, intended to be used at my church to kick off the year with a new theme. I was given a few ideas and some words to put on the canvas. Then I painted. It was edgy and different. I poured my energy and my life into … More Personal Graffiti
After the birth of my firstborn, I realized something. My waistline had expanded. A pretty “normal” weight gain given that I was experiencing a load of stress from my new life as a parent along with job stress and working on a Masters degree part time. Overeating gave me an emotional way to decompress, to release the tension … More Something in your eyes took a thousand years to get here
Little ole jesus seems so nice, so familiar. He speaks with a voice that I recognize, in fact he sounds just like me. He has come by his opinions by dredging the bottom of Longing Lake and Pain Point and all the stupid stuff I have done. You would think this would make him wise, … More Which Jesus do you listen to?
Are you a leader or a follower? I hate that question for a number of reasons. I hate it because it is an either/or question: You either lead, or you follow. Every leader is also a follower and every follower is often also a leader. Second, I dislike the question because it assumes that leading and … More Are you a Leader or are you an Oreo Cookie?
I have a love-hate relationship with quitting. I love the idea of not being a quitter, persevering and never giving up. I also hate the idea of not quitting, persevering and never giving up. What gives? I have quit jobs, quit a few relationships and quit more than a few bad habits. I have even … More Quitting Time
When I get angry, really angry, I lose IQ points. I call this stupid-angry. Any intelligence that I have when I am rational disappears when I become stupid-angry. Stupid-angry feels like I have drunk a 26 of emotional whiskey. My brain feels like it is moving in super fast Ninja speed, but what comes out … More Stupid Anger
Getting High on Recovery 