Is male intimacy limited to the bro-hug and “how you doin?” Whatever it is, it scares the crap out of us. ___ Men talk about sports, work, and beer, but talking about feelings is not what they want, right? ◊♦◊ He shocked me. I’ve known him for over twenty years, and Gord (not his name) is not the type to talk about … More Intimacy and the Myth of the Self Made Man
Did you know that your mind has both an Editor and a DJ? ___ If you were to take one day and live unedited and unscripted I daresay that you would not be a popular person. In most circles, you are expected to edit everything you say and everything you do. Often, editing is a … More 5 Ways to Make Peace With Your Hostile Inner Editor
If you are in recovery, go ahead and fall in love. Your life may depend on it. ___ Recovery wisdom says that we shouldn’t fall in love in the first year of recovery. The idea is that you need to focus on yourself because the crazy-love feelings will hijack your recovery. Falling in love should … More The Benefits of Falling in Love in Recovery
Never be afraid when your love changes, because changing love is healthy love. ___ Writing about love is hard for me, damned hard. I mostly stumble around the topic and make a mess of things. It’s not that I don’t need love. I need my family and my close friends to love me, I just find it difficult … More The Six Loves that Create Lasting Love
Starting, not Quitting is the Hardest Thing About Recovery. ____ How has addiction impacted you and your family? For me, it is easy to say that my father drank heavily and that I consider him an addict. It is easy to point a finger about his drinking, his anger, his abuse. An Addiction to Easy? I … More Addiction: The Hardest Thing About Recovery
Relationships are a collision of worlds. When love chooses you, it is beautifully chaotic. ____ If you are not married and are in a committed relationship, I hope what I write will connect with you. At the core, a marriage is a relationship of two people held together by love, good intentions and a lot … More Love Your Imperfect Marriage and it will Love You Back
Baby, I can’t feel my face when I’m with you. But I love it. And then I died. ___ Love is fun. It can make us do silly things and say things that are genuine… genuinely stupid. Studies show that we lose brain cells when we are in love. This is why the government makes couples sign up … More I Can’t Feel My Face When I’m With You
Editors are trying to destroy your life. They attack with bolts of lightning and you may not even realize it. Microsoft made a deal with the devil. MS Word installs the Editor with every copy of software. Every misspelled word, every grammatical error and every contextual faux pas invites a bolt of lightning from your unfriendly … More Your Editor may be destroying your life
Can a person get remarried too many times? I know a guy about my age who has been remarried 7 times. He says that he will do it again if he needs to. Is he insane, or is he really just in love with the punishment? After the first few times, wouldn’t you just get a divorce … More Love, Remarriage & Recycling
Getting High on Recovery 