What’s the hardest thing you have ever done? This week I read an article by Mayo Oshin, “The Comfort Trap.” I highly recommend the article because it uses science and a bit of philosophy to make a case for how struggle (while unpleasant) is good for us. Having some struggle in our lives is a … More How Comfortable Can Become a Trap
Being in recovery from depression, anxiety or addiction is not simply finding a way to be happy. It is about boundaries, healthy self-care, communication and accepting both hard things and things you cannot change. For the rest of the article, “Four Ways that ‘Self-care’ will sabotage your well being” click on the photo. Photo by … More Pursuing Happiness Can Sabotage Your Recovery
Accepting what we can change is self-care. It is doing what we can to improve ourselves, our life, our work just a little bit each day. It is the ugly-hard-uncomfortable stuff. It is learning that no matter how old, stubborn, inflexible, proud or independent we may be, we can do something. And then we do … More Acceptance is Self-Care
It’s true: Taking little risks, every day, will help you to feel more alive. We cannot control happiness, but when we can live more by our values, we will feel more alive. So will coffee, being outside in sub-zero weather, seeing the latest Star Wars movie, or having a near-death experience, buying a new house … More Taking Little Risks Every Day Will Help You to Feel More Alive
We are in an age where self-care is cool and hard work, hard stuff is neither passionate, nor cool. Self-care is about setting boundaries that prioritize good health alongside time for employment, family relationships, “maintenance” of of our homes and possessions (which is another word for the ever-unpopular and uncool daily or weekly chores). For … More How to Embrace the Hard Work of Self-Care
“Self-care went from being something I do to something I am.” Jasmine Fulks, Registered Psychologist For a free article on self-care, “Four Ways that “Self-care” Will Sabotage Your Well being”, click on the photo. Photo by Photo by Luke Stackpoole on Unsplash
“The people that are able to give the most have the best boundaries.” Jasmine Fulks, Registered Psychologist Recently I attended a workshop that emphasized the need for self-care. The workshop was a great opportunity to connect with my wife and a few friends. It also got me thinking more deeply about my life. Some of … More Four Ways that “Self-care” Will Sabotage Your Well being
What can we do about our stuff? The answer to this question is not easy, nor is it quick. And sometimes there is no answer. There is no prescription for handling all of the stuff that you will face in your recovery or your life. I have found that it is helpful to invest more of my … More Here is What You Can Do If You Feel Bad Because You Are Stuck on Trying to Feel Good
I want to feel it all of the time. So I exercise. I communicate. I work hard. I set goals. I strive to be healthy. I practice acceptance, awareness and openness to what is. But I can’t seem to avoid the pull back to my addiction to feeling good. For full article, “When is Feeling … More I Am Addicted to Feeling Good
One danger of sitting with our stuff is to get caught inside your head, thinking all of the time instead of doing what you need to do. But realize this one thing: the act of thinking IS action. Action always begins inside. But sometimes we don’t take the time to reflect, we react on impulse. … More If You Are Addicted to the Need to Feel Good, This is What You Can Do About It – Part 2
Getting High on Recovery 